How What You “Should” Do Influences Your Purpose

The world is filled with all kinds of “should.” Most people agree that you should eat breakfast every day, you should attend college and you should find a nice, stable job and settle down in life.

With all the “should,” there is not a lot of wiggle room for personal preferences, passions and growth. So, how exactly do you discover and define your purpose when the rest of the world is so intensely focused on what you should be doing at various stages of your life? Well, it actually comes down to another kind of “should” — what you think you should be doing.

But how do you differentiate between the two?

Admittedly, it can be fairly difficult. To start, create a list of all of the things that you believe you should be doing at this point in your life. Go ahead and include those things that are uncertainties to you. Once your list is complete, choose a different color pen, pencil or crayon (hey, I won’t tell you what to write with) and mark each item with the word “them” or “me.” If the “should” comes from them, from other people, maybe it is not something that you necessarily need to be doing with your life.

Your purpose is supposed to help define your life, and no one in this world understands your purpose and passion as intimately as you do. You can do everything that, according to the rest of the world, you “should” be doing until you are blue in the face, but there will likely be little or no fulfilment from it. Instead, focus on what your purpose says you should be doing and follow your heart.

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